Lisa Stuart Has Earned Expert Author Status!

I've been working hard pouring my heart and soul into writing as of late. I wrote several articles on various subjects around attracting the love of your life and submitted them to some article submission sites. I am very proud of the finished products, if I do say so myself. I have additionally been rewarded with the honor of now being deemed an Expert Author. If you'd like to read my articles, please click on this link.

http://www.ezinearticles.com/?expert=Lisa_Stuart

Please do bookmark it as well because I'll be submitting articles as regularly as I can in addition to the usual blog post or two per week.

Warmest Regards,
Lisa Stuart

Do You Keep Old Mementos from Previous Relationships?

If you're like most people, at one time or another you have probably held onto something that symbolizes an aspect of your relationship with someone even when it is over. Maybe it was with the hope that you would get back together and rekindle your love or maybe it was to remind you of what a wonderful person you lost so that you can beat yourself up for a while as a reminder to not do that again.

These mementos can include old love letters or cards they gave to you, pictures of the two of you together or just of them or maybe even both, a movie ticket stub from a movie you saw together, or anything else that they gave to you or somehow represents the time you shared together and that you have given meaning to.

You may have told yourself that you're just a hopeless romantic as to why you have held onto such things to justify their taking up space in your home and in your life even after knowing there was no hope of the two of you ever getting back together. Are you still holding onto any objects from a past relationship? How many of them do you have? From how many past relationships? It is important to ask yourself these questions so that you can get a clear picture of how you might be holding onto the past. I can guarantee that if you're holding onto the past this way that you're also doing it in other ways.

You may not know it, but these objects maintain an energetic connection to these people for as long as you hold onto them and they have the meaning of your togetherness with that person. They are physical representations of the attachment that still exists between you and them. The reason it is important to become aware of this is that as long as you still have these energetic connections to people from your past, whether you know it or not, you can never truly commit to a future relationship because a part of you is still wrapped up in your past with someone you're no longer even with!

It is time to let go of those old attachments and free yourself from your past. I recommend getting all these things together and either burning them or throwing them in the trash. Either way you decide to let go of this part of your past, do so with ceremony. It doesn't have to be anything fancy. Just saying a few words that represent your conscious awareness of letting go can suffice.

Like the phoenix that rises out of the ashes renewed and ever more powerful, you will regain and recapture all of the energy that you have unknowingly left scattered throughout your past. You might be surprised at how absolutely wonderful releasing your old attachments can feel. Then, make sure you somehow celebrate the reclaiming of your complete self knowing that you are truly free to commit to a relationship with your true love.

All my best,
Lisa

Don't Let Lonely Get You Down...

Do you find yourself laying in bed at night alone and feeling lonely and wishing that there was someone next to you? I think all of us feel that way at some time or another, but it can be a problem when it causes you to settle for the first man or woman that comes along in an effort to avoid feeling lonely.

If you feel that you need to be in a relationship because you just can't handle feeling lonely, think about it like this. If you choose to wait for Mr. or Ms. Right to come along instead, when they do you won't have to feel lonely ever again. You will be with that person for a lifetime. If you don't wait and get into the first relationship that comes along, chances are it will not work out and you will experience lonely again and again.

Being single does not have to mean feeling lonely. While you are waiting for the love of your life to come along, distract yourself from feeling lonely by making it a point to spend time with good friends, read the books you've been wanting to read for what seems like forever, watch whatever you want to watch on television whenever you want to watch it, schedule to spend quality time with your children and/or pets on a daily or weekly basis or... doing anything your little heart desires while you're single. We all know that once Mr. or Ms. Right comes along that we tend to do less of these type of things anyway, so you might as well do as much and as many things as you can. Many people find that they really enjoy being single as long as they keep busy with the things that are important to them.

One last thing, if you absolutely can't seem to get out of your loneliness funk, the quickest way out of it is to get out of the house and volunteer! The best place is a retirement or nursing home where you can spend time with someone who is probably way more lonely than you ever thought of being. Just spending half an hour visiting with someone who perhaps has no one else ever come to visit them will end up helping both of you beyond measure. It doesn't matter what kind of volunteering you do, you will feel better because you will have taken the focus off of yourself feeling lonely and put the focus on others and their needs. There is little, if anything, that can be more rewarding than this if you're feeling down in the dumps and need a little pick-me-up.

Enjoy,
Lisa

Do You Know What Your Relationship Blueprint Is?

We each have unique blueprints for everything. They are a product of our past subconscious conditioning and for the most part are created during our childhood. We have different blueprints for success, happiness, money, love and relationships, work, school and everything inbetween. Although we have different blueprints, changing one toward a more supportive and fulfilling direction in your life will affect the others in the same way.

Have you ever stopped to think what your relationship blueprint might be? If attracting the love of your life is a goal for you and you haven't yet experienced anything that even closely resembles what you would consider to be your perfect relationship, you'll probably want to figure out what it is. This is because your relationship blueprint is the foundation from which you build your relationships.

Fortunately or unfortunately, this blueprint has more control than does our conscious desire and powerfully influences who we attract and are attracted to. If we want to create something different from what we have been experiencing, we have to first change our blueprint.

One of the first steps to take toward that end is to simply ask yourself what your experiences were when you were growing up concerning relationships in addition to the results that you are experiencing in your relationships now.

Your ultimate goal is to make sure that your relationship blueprint is conducive to attracting the love of your life so that you can experience that. You will probably discover that it's not quite there yet. Try to identify what the differences are between the relationships you have been experiencing and what kind of relationship you would actually like to create.

Just being aware of what your current relationship blueprint is and how it differs from what you would like it to be will start the ball rolling in the direction of attracting the love of your life.

Warmly,
Lisa

The End of A Relationship Doesn't Have to Seem So Bad...

The end of a relationship can be emotionally devastating. It can also mean freedom. Freedom from being with someone you weren't supposed to be with in the first place.

In a book that I am reading, I ran across the most interesting concept that has caught my attention in a long time. I've thought a lot about it and have realized how valuable it is and so I want to share it with you.

It goes something like this...

When a relationship ends, we can feel really deep emotional pain and sadness for the loss. We tend to automatically assume and blame the pain we feel on missing the person and the relationship and that might make us long to get back into that relationship. Many people have experienced this yo-yo effect of getting into and out of a relationship with the same person before they realize that it is not healthy for either party and finally get out for good.

Think about it this way instead--the pain one feels when a relationship fails really comes from losing what we had hoped and wanted the relationship to be.

When you look at it this way, you can see that what you are actually losing is a relationship in which one or neither of you were happy and that you are not losing what you had envisioned or hoped the relationship to be. Everyone knows that you cannot truly lose what you never had. So, realistically, feeling pain for something that doesn't exist and never will exist is rather useless. What could have been in your relationship never was. Why waste your precious time and your even more precious emotional energy on something or someone that never will be what you want it to be?

Instead, focus your energy on finding a relationship where you are both happy and together can co-create a healthy and loving relationship.

And finally, I am in no way saying that it isn't healthy to mourn for the loss of someone you love, just make sure that you identify the proper source of the pain so that you don't go getting back into a relationship with someone who isn't truly the love of your life.

Warmest Regards,
Lisa